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Don't Look Into That Mirror!

                Both literally and figuratively
I mentioned in my September RECAP  that I'm learning that asking others for their opinion at times is like giving them a cutlass to cut you with. A mirror is a mirror and people could be mirrors too. For this post, a person becomes your mirror when you seek their opinion. Believe me, I've come to realise that sometimes it's really unnecessary because of 3 points I'd be sharing.

1. You might inadvertently ruin your self confidence : Because the mirror might show you some of your flaws and imperfections and if you can't deal with it, your self confidence could be ruined. For example, you prepare a delicious meal, give someone to eat and you're waiting for the person to compliment you but it doesn't come, then you go 'What do you think about the food?' and the reply crushes you. What happens then? You really didn't have to ask.

2. The mirror might want to make itself feel better: I don't know why but I've noticed that people tend to get relieved when they make your own shortcomings huge in lieu of their own. You're in your final year and yourself and few of your classmates have to submit your topics to your supervisor. This girl submits hers first and it probably doesn't go well. As most students would do, you ask her what she thinks your supervisor would say about your work. Whether consciously or not, she'd try to make hers seem better and where does that leave you? Somewhere between feeling inferior and being confused.

3. Sometimes what you don't know won't kill you : You know how fresh and fly you feel when you know your outfit is all dope and well put together? That's how I was feeling one Sunday till I got home, removed my sandal and realised that the sole was already separating from the body. I became weak instantly and my friend told me she noticed in Church but she chose not to tell me because it wasn't exactly noticeable and she knew how uncomfortable it would make me feel. I felt like smacking her at first but when I saw the truth in what she said, I really appreciated her. Imagine I had looked through a mirror(Thank God nobody else noticed and came to tell me) . I'd have gone through the whole day overly self conscious and I wouldn't have enjoyed the day a bit!

I can't even remember what birthed this post. I just wrote down the title somewhere and made mental notes in my head but when it was time to write it, I wasn't feeling it.I guess my boredom with school work is gradually spreading? Pray for me in Darey's voice.  Even up till now that I'm typing it, I was going to schedule it for later and then I saw this

 "Nearly every man who develops an idea works at it up to the point where it looks impossible, and then gets discouraged. That's not the place to become discouraged." - Thomas A. Edison

I know Constructive Criticism is essential.  We all need it every now and then but it shouldn't get to a point where we always need people's validation to make us feel better.

Am I missing something out?
What's your take on asking others for their opinion? For it or against it?
How do you deal with destructive criticism?

P.S : It's not only with what you do or how you do it. Every area actually ; how you walk? dress? talk? even up to how you wear your makeup. You get? Let's talk! Leave me your thoughts please.

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