Sunday, 18 June 2017

9 Chores : From Mundane to Therapeutic

To be honest, I never knew there was such a thing as therapeutic chores especially as I literally grew up hating the word 'chores' especially on Saturday mornings. Though, I used to go on and on to friends about how washing plates was therapeutic for me, made me feel better and cleared my head, I thought it was just one of those things plus I assumed it was so because my major chore as a child was washing plates. And then, one day, my head was really cleared to the extent that I had to search the internet for the term Therapeutic Chores and see if others could relate. I was expecting to get asked if I meant something else but no, I got a page full of websites talking about chores that were therapeutic.

I actually do not enjoy chores. I'd rather be doing something else. I found out that some people actually go about the house searching for things to clean but not me. Even after I drafted this post, I was in an unpleasant mood one day, needed to get out of it then I remembered the cleaning the house thingy. Trust me, I rolled my eyes still because sweeping, dusting and all that don't do it for me. This means therapeutic chores is relative because trust me, my eyes widened in amazement when I found out some people consider ironing a form of therapy for them. So, let's talk about these chores that may actually seem mundane but are actually therapeutic

1. Cooking : Does this even count as a chore? But if it does, Oh yes please. Especially when the kitchen is big, clean and super comfortable. And for me, a plus is when I know I'd be feeding someone else. I don't really enjoy cooking when I know I'd get to eat it alone. Weird but can anyone relate?

2. Laundry : This is majorly a chore for me in school and on a scale of 0-10,I find this therapeutic on a 5 which is really fair as I don't enjoy washing clothes at all. It's super stressful especially the rinsing part. I think the washing and scrubbing of the dirt away from the clothes is actually the therapeutic part of doing laundry.

3. Shopping : Not totally but I enjoy getting new things so yes, it has been quite therapeutic for me but can we just move to the part where I can buy everything and anything I want online? Yes please

4. Gardening : There's just something extremely calming about seeing the green of nature. I've never tried my hands on gardening before but I know first hand how satisfying admiring the beauty of nature can be especially when you're walking deliberately.

5. Making your bed every morning : Honestly, I don't think this has been very therapeutic for me. Partly because I'd rather still be in bed and partly because I just don't pay attention. I'm not an early riser so most times, I just do it just for the sake of doing it.

6. Ironing : You find this therapeutic? Hey, superhuman! Ironing is like the worst chore ever for me. I actually dread ironing, it's not pleasant but I do and when I have money, I'd get myself an ironing machine first(if it exists) before a washing machine. I can remember something funny I did in secondary school. I was doing the resumption routine at home and when it was time to iron, I desperately wanted someone to just help me out so I cooked up a lie to my parents about how I used to pay a classmate to iron my clothes for me in school when I actually never had to iron in school. Of course, I didn't get the sympathy I wanted. I got scolded and oh, I ironed in silence.

7. Sweeping : Not exactly my cup of tea but yes it is therapeutic. There's just something about making a place or a thing clean that detoxifies the mind so yes to this.

8. Decluttering : Definitely. Especially if it's someplace really familiar. Say for example, your wardrobe. Just rearranging the clothes does wonders to the mind. I do this every weekend but this doesn't mean you won't come a day after and meet it tidy. Your room in general, kitchen, bookshelf amongst many others.

9. Washing Plates : Last but of course not the least. In a super comfortable place with a wide sink and a pleasant smelling dishwash, I understand what therapeutic really means. I don't think I want to learn how to use a dishwasher. I don't think I want to ever get one. I might be back to edit this in years time but right now, dishwasher is a No.

Writing this was therapeutic even though I kept going back and forth in my head about completing it but here it is! I missed blogging soo much. Not just posting here but reading posts on other blogs. That's another level of therapy for me. School is super choking right now and exam period is almost here so I'm not promising I'd be back next week but I'd be back.

Here's a really helpful link that gives more information on the whole therapeutic chores notion. Check it out HERE. At long last, these chores are not new. It's just about setting our minds to getting something positive and calming from them.

What about you?
Which of those chores do you find therapeutic?
Any other chore not listed up there? I'd love to know. Myself and other readers might just find it therapeutic.
What chore did you ever fake sickness for just so you avoid it?
What other forms of therapy work for you? Sleeping, listening to music, reading, writing? Let me know please.

Reading comments is super therapeutic for me and I always want to hear from you. Kindly leave me your thoughts. xx

Thursday, 18 May 2017

Least favorite things about being sick

This is a totally random post. Words were forming too much in my head and even though I know it's not much to blog about, I remembered one of the reasons I started blogging - to reduce the story forming rate in my mind- and decided to type and post it afterall.
I generally hate everything about sickness but being under the weather for few days last week made me remember every one of the reasons.

1. Smell of drugs: Makes me nauseous and I'm sure everyone can relate. Then, there's always the tendency to throw it up which is why injection is bae. Immediately I got injection, I felt really better.

2. The general helplessness : Having to depend on others for almost everything. It isn't fresh.

3. The pain, tears that lead to headache : I'm one of those people who cry cause of illness. We know crying worsens everything but we really can't help it. The doctor asked me why I was crying, I gave her the honest answer that I didn't know and she found it funny.

4. Having to inconvenience others : Because helpless and we all need a caregiver when we are sick. On the day I fell really sick, 3 of my friends missed a class.

5. Trying to remember what it feels like to be fit as a fiddle with the constant headache : While someone was trying to tell me that she can't remember what it feels like to have malaria, I was trying hard to remember what it feels like to not have bodyache and general tiredness.

6. Vain or not, not being able to carry out skincare routine properly : I'm not even vain but this had to make the list. It was impossible to wash my face at night because I'd rather use that energy to eat so I had to depend on coconut oil and wipes which kind of helped. That's a beauty hack right there.

7. Lagging behind on the blog front : I don't want to believe I'm playing the blame game but I couldn't even finish up the post I was going to publish and I couldn't promote my posts. A little confession however is that school work is way too stressful so maybe, just maybe I might not still have done this in any case.

8. Piling up of school notes : One of the most annoying on this list because piled up notes aren't pretty and tests can come anytime. Personally, getting myself to read after a long hiatus is more stressful than anything.

9. Spending way more than what was budgeted for : Thankfully, no hospital bills were incurred but money that wasn't supposed to be spent on sickness was spent.

I honestly thought I wouldn't have up to 5 things to list but look at me forcing myself to stop at 9. Sometimes, the illness comes without any form of warning and sometimes, it does warn us. In my case, I had being seeing symptoms of a typical malaria case but I chose to ignore it and use only PCM when it became unbearable because 1). I refused to listen to my mum when she kept telling me not to leave home without antimalaria drugs and 2). I had so many commitments and I didn't want to spend extra money on drugs that I'd probably not use but heyy just take a look at No 9. Prevention is always better than cure, people.

Is it weird that I enjoyed writing this post? I think list posts are always fun.

What's your least favorite thing about being sick? .
I was going to rephrase that and say "Most annoying thing about being sick" but some people actually have a few favorite things about being sick like all the attention, care and food. Lol. So, what's yours?
Are you more of a drug or injection person? And why
What are your personal rituals during sickness to hasten good health? For some people, it's seeing movies, reading books or even eating. I'm not even sure if I have one but thinking about the things I'm missing helps.
I always want to hear from you. Kindly leave me your thoughts. xxxx

Friday, 5 May 2017

What the location of your Breakout says about it

I enjoy reading skincare posts a lot and so I'm always on the lookout for topics to read up on and I definitely get a lot because the internet seems to be full of lots of inquisitive people like me and thankfully many experts/dermatologists to make everything easier. When I started reading this topic up, I had no plan to publish it as a post because I didn't think I'd see much as the question came out of nowhere but there was so much to digest and read that I knew I had to share on the blog.

More than 50% of the pimples that appear on my face are always on my chin. Always. I got tired and that's what birthed the research because even after abstaining from all the 10 Beauty Mistakes that could be causing breakouts I shared last year, they kept coming back! Reading up on it definitely reduced stress for me as the location of the breakout lets me know to a high degree the exact cause and what I can do to salvage the situation instead of worrying about what mistakes I might be making / why my skincare routine isn't effective. It's also fun being able to educate those people who make it seem like you don't have any way to see your face with their constant "Ah,You have pimples" or "See your pimples" and all sort. Enough about me, let's talk about breakout location.

FOREHEAD : I read somewhere that zits on here are often referred to as The Third Eye, super hilarious. Dermatologists believe it's caused by stress and maybe just maybe you're going through puberty. I think it's safe to say that almost all my readers are way past that age but you never can really tell. The stress part is like so accurate even though it isn't exactly limited to causing zits on just the forehead. I honestly think the forehead is like the worst spot to have breakouts because one it's the central location of the face. Everyone gets to see it especially if it's one of those huge ones. Two because I hear that trying to burst any form of pimple there could lead to tampering with a vein or two. If that isn't scary, I don't know what is. The key here is to stay hydrated with water.

NOSE : Okay,I think having a zit on the nose is just as bad as having it on the forehead for similar reasons. Imagine trying to look down at your nose and all you see is this large mole. I've been there and it's not cool. The surface of the nose has lot of dilated pores that tend to clog easily so if you aren't exfoliating-physically with exfoilants and chemically with water-adequately, you're at risk of having a mole on your nose.

Fun fact : A day after typing this out, I got a pimple on my nose even though I had just exfoliated the day before! It made it really oily and I could only look at the bright side and say writing things actually bring them to fruition. Lol

UPPER/LOWER LIPS : So, experts say we've been eating too much greasy/acidic foods and are expected to eliminate it from the diet but how feasible is that? It could also be caused by hormonal imbalance and I totally get this because once in a while, I get a zit somewhere around my lower lip.

CHEEKS : I listed the reason(s) for the occurrence of this in my Beauty mistakes post. Dirty hands, dirty mobile devices, dirty pillow cases, dirty makeup brushes. Of course, you use all of this in other places but the cheeks happen to be the weakest link here because it comes in contact most. So, the next time you get bored and about to do a 360° around your face, remember what's at stake.

ALONG THE HAIRLINE : For me, the breakouts around here are very subtle but I sometimes see and feel them. I like to think of them as opportunistic, arising mostly after a new hairdo. Oil from haircream also adds to the tendency of the occurrence here. You can also check to make sure you wash your makeup off completely.

CHIN : You know what they say after making a list and they mentioned the last thing saying "And the last but definitely not the least"? This is what they were referring to because the chin region is definitely not the least on this list as it's my absolute favorite! Hey, it's not like I enjoy having breakouts here but I've had way too many already that finding out the reason for its occurrence gave me a really satisfying feeling. I used to notice that it came with period cramps but I thought it was just normal pms until I found out it's totally hormonal/gynecological and I wish I could have found out why the hormones choose this part of the face but either way, I think it's fair enough considering the fact that it could have opted for the forehead or the nose.

I definitely enjoyed writing this almost as much as I did while reading about it. You can check out this really informative POSTthat not only goes into details as to what part of the body controls what segment of the face, it also tells you about how the time of the day your pimple appears could be a clue to what brought about its emergence. How sweet can that be?

Where's your PRL- pimple recurring location? I totally made that up. Mine is my chin
You have a big day tomorrow and all of a sudden, a pimple appears. What are you doing to treat it? Any hacks?
Let's talk, talk and talk!
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Wednesday, 26 April 2017

4 Style Bloggers: On basic styling tips for short dresses

This is a very special post because it's the closest I can get to having something fashion related on the blog. At least for now till I finally adjust to my new timetable.

I always think of short dresses/skirts as a 'heys' dress - heys being the legit sound Nigerian men use to catcall-. I'd define a 'heys' dress for you right about now. That dress that basically gets you heys both with the mouth and the eyes. I don't know which is worse by the way. I think it has to be the former. I mean, every other person around gets to hear the heys and add to your embarrassment.

What inspired this post? Well, obviously I was wearing a heys dress and even though I could have changed before leaving home, there was no time because well I finished late and I also wasn't ready to disrupt the 'timetable' for the week. . I also remembered this popular tweet about how girls would wear short dresses and start pulling it down like we didn't know it was short before leaving home.
So, naturally, I was already thinking up tips and tricks to not looking too uncomfortable during the day and making a mental note not to bend too much. I then decided to make this into a post and ask these awesome fashion bloggers tips and tricks to  employ when this kind of dress is worn. Especially in this part of the world where an outfit revealing as much as your shoulders causes raised eyebrows from the elderly folks.
Here's what they had to say

Wumi Tuase who blogs HERE and whose wardrobe I'd definitely love to raid because any outfit she puts together just looks perfect for me in my head gave some really cool answers. She says "I'm throwing on a pair of panty hose. That's if I don't have a second option. I always do though and that's my go to outfit. Whenever I'm going somewhere and I'm wearing a dress, I always have a pair of jeans, top and jacket just in case my zip spoils. But if there's no time to change, panty hose/fishnets for me."

Lade of ToyinwithFashion says the best thing that can be done is to grab a long coat/jacket (kimono) that you can throw on. She also mentioned the use of fishnets/popsocks or a fitted skirt even.

Tega of Tegaenai actually happened to have been in a similar situation few days before I hit her up! She happens to be one of those people with the special gift of having an extra piece of clothing in their bag, so she simply wore a skirt under her dress because it seemed too short for the official environment she was in. She adds other tips such as probably making a quick dash for a jacket before leaving home

Sarah who blogs at  Princessaudu is another fashion blogger I really admire because of the simple, modest and chic looks she puts together so I definitely wasn't surprised when she told me to start with that she'd most likely not be wearing a short dress to start with but says if finds herself in such position with no time to change, she'd either throw a pair of trousers underneath the dress or style the dress as a top over a skirt. She also mentioned that she'd opt for sheer thick tights and flat shoes so as not to draw too much attention to her legs then pop in her earphones and ignore any form of awkward attention.

I totally enjoyed all of their answers and I definitely love the fact that every response was somehow related. Basically, Layering, leggings/panty hose/fishnets.

Having an extra piece of clothing, watching out for the wind, staying confident(major key), seating properly or discarding the dress totally. are survival tips you definitely know of but there's absolutely no harm in mentioning it again.

I've actually never been really into short dresses and I figured I'd probably not be in this kind of dilemma anymore until recently when I wore a top for the very first time and the zip got worn out. Like totally. It was very horrible to be honest. I had no other thing to wear and I planned to stay in the car till closing hours until I realized I had a scarf in my bag that I was able to use cover my back till I safely got to a tailor's shop. Whew. I guess it was nature's way of telling me to complete this post but I did not budge until now.
So, while I might not be able to go around with an extra piece of clothing everytime,a new addition to my bag on days when I'm wearing something zipped  is definitely a scarf. I can only hope I don't get tired of it, suddenly discard it and then be in huge need for it the very next day.

I hope reading this reminds you to always have an extra piece of clothing around even if it's as little as a scarf because zips can get worn out anytime and dresses can get short overnight. Lol

Have you ever been in a bad dress situation? I'm guessing we all have. Some are pretty hilarious, please share them
How did you get out of it?
What are some of your personal tips and tricks to dealing with such situations? We all need some of those.
How do you cope with wearing short dresses?

I always want to hear from you. Kindly leave me your thoughts. xxx
PS : Is it just me or that ending sounds quite cheesy like I was writing an essay. Hehehe
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Monday, 17 April 2017

Dealing with Change(s)

I hate to admit this but I'm really one of those people who do not cope well with change. I actually have some amount of admiration for people who adapt to change quickly. Like, howw? It's so bad that I can't even pretend to even adapt to change and I think the underlying cause is the fact that I tend to get attached to things, people, situations, places, even materials a lot.
Contrary to what the post title might imply, I'm not going to be dishing out tips on how to deal with changes. I'm not even qualified at all. I'm just going to be talking about how necessary it is to be able to deal with change adequately. All photos courtesy of pinterest (I hardly go on there, but when I do, I get lost in it!)

Never has. Never will. We can't just keep doing the same old thing and expect new results. I mentioned something similar in my6 Life Lessons From My Pancake Fails post. I kept on using the same recipe and as expected, I got the same old 'version' of pancake that isn't visually appealing. Just a little tweak here and there and my pancake game is actually stronger. So,everyone who's not quick to adapt to changes like me, here's our call to order.

There's this quote on how bad complacency can be that I came across that has once pushed me to do more. Every next level definitely demands a different role for us to play and as we shouldn't be satisfied with the status quo, we have to constantly do more and be more. The world itself is constantly evolving and we humans need to do likewise if we want to get the best of it. A very practical example here is the makeup industry. Those people have no chill. Someone I know who learned makeup in 2013 said she used to be the superstar then among her friends till everything upgraded and all the contouring, highlighting terms came into the play and she had to go brush up her game. Imagine still doing makeup the way it was done 4 years ago.

Simply because the old things have passed away and definitely cannot be changed. And we have to live in the now.

Safety is tempting but then if we don't step forward and risk nothing, then we risk even more. I'm not even a risktaker but I've been there and I know how much it can hurt to start thinking of what could have been.

To be honest, when I saw this, I was literally screaming "Tell me about it". I'm super guilty of this and I know how much progress I would be making in every area if only I could stop being a couch potato. Comfort zones are wayy too comfortable - No single pun intended. I think the most annoying thing is that it's not even easy to break out of a comfort zone. I won't go all motivational speaker and just say we should break out of it because I know the struggle myself. Just this morning, I was in bed till past noon and even though I had lots of things to do, I just wanted to keep being lazy.

-Try out that new method.
- Apply for that scholarship before it's too late
- Type that post before the inspiration runs away(My sub right here)
- Step out of your comfort zone and wear a different color of clothes, lipstick - (I sort of collect lipstick and I could be on a shade for the whole week. It gets boring!)
Just do something different for the fun of it!

Friday, 17 March 2017

Birthday Talk and Pictures

I didn't plan to do a birthday post but I realized how much fun I had going through last year's Post mentally and I decided to just put together something and then, what better way to preserve pictures than on here?
I actually did have a fun day and I realized that the last time I celebrated my birthday at home was 9 years ago when I was in JSS2. I tweeted this and somehow someone was able to accurately get my age. I'm a small girl, lol. I'm not sure I look my age tho. My new age resolution is to finally stop hiding my age, so feel free to ask me. Hehehe
I had to leave home rushing and that's something I actually do not enjoy. I didn't expect to have as much fun as I did because I was expecting very few people as most of my friends stay in Lagos but at the end of the day, I realized that less is actually more. I had an amazing surprise guest too. I wish I could blog about how thrilled I was but I'd end up writing gibberish as much as I like to think I'm good with putting down my thoughts. Lol. So this, post is going to have a picture to words ratio of 70:30 because pictures speak a thousand words. Lol

I definitely don't know what I was saying 

It was totally a coincidence. Now people think I love red. Someone even said I moved my own Valentine's day forward 😄😄😄

Maybe I play too much. Lol 

I think I'm already exceeding the 70:30 ratio but it's allowed. Lol
I was literally forced to eat something. 

Guess who miraculously got these glasses. I was too happy! 

The shared laughter 💜💜💜

I definitely had fun and another highlight of the day was a gift from my brother. We just stopped by his school and he got me two lippies that managed to be exactly my fit and a eyeshadow palette I'd probably not use anytime soon but I appreciate nevertheless.
This is a rush post because the week was really busy and Fridays happen to be the busiest around here.
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Wednesday, 8 March 2017

Books Vs Movies : Would you rather read or watch?

This is definitely not up for argument as the title might imply. It is more of a discussion as I'm tired of thinking about it and explaining it to myself and others. For the longest time, I've been asked why I haven't seen a full episode of Game of Thrones or why I don't follow this or that series/ haven't seen this movie and the likes. Even though I have a few  Favorite movies of all time , I honestly find more solace in reading books for reasons I wasn't certain until recently.
It was an online interview (I'd have linked back to it but it hasn't been published) and I was asked what my favorite TV show while growing up was. After thinking hard, I realized I had none and the reason was not far fetched. I grew up with my grandmother and I hardly watched TV  because there was a fixed routine during weekdays of going to school, getting back home to play for a little while, doing homework and then freestyling till night falls with the television left untouched and then during weekends, leave her place to my parents place and start acting all clingy clingy. So, then too TV wasn't an option because all we wanted to do was catch up on all the time we couldn't spend together during the week. Also, there was this spelling game we used to play on Saturdays and I always wanted to get all my spellings right so I sort of figured reading storybooks would help and it definitely did. The one word I can remember spelling right that made me immensely proud of myself was 'Encyclopedia' even though I doubt I even knew the meaning at that time. Somehow, I managed to watch less of all the Tom and Jerry and Cinderella I developed a huge reading habit, buying and borrowing books here and there so I had a deep love for anything in print (magazines, newspapers and the likes). It wasn't much of the deep stuff of trying to get life lessons but just to amuse myself. All these made me more of a book than a movie person which I didn't think of as much of a big deal till first year in University and all my roommates would be watching movies and I'd be sleeping and they'd be asking "How don't you watch movies?".

I've been reading more books these days like Last month  when I read 5 and someone was awed and asked why not movies so I decided to make a post about it and share my views and get to know and understand other people's preferences. I was thinking of making this post all about myself and share why I prefer reading books to seeing movies but I changed my mind and decided to ask randomly on my twitter and a few friends which they'd rather go for and then share some of their responses.

From those who'd rather watch,I gathered that

- They'd rather deal with something they can finish in less than 2 hours which well makes sense because reading books could be quite tiring at times. Someone even went as far as telling me he finds it hard to read emails talkless of reading a whole book! I found that pretty hilarious.
Another person I asked said he's so into movies that if he wants to study, he'd rather opt for video tutorials because he gets bored reading books.

- With books, you'll have to do all the imagining whereas movies just simplify everything. For example, I read a book I love so much  with its location in Athens and I've been trying to paint the perfect picture but I doubt if I'm close so it's definitely top on my places to visit list. If it was a movie, I definitely won't have any problem visualizing it.

- It's easier to get distracted when reading books than when watching movies. This makes a lot of sense. I mean, this is a era where we're drawn to visually appealing things. Just look at Instagram.

For books over movies, It was basically

- Books spark your imagination. You tend to imagine a lot and there's a lot of possibilities in imaginations especially if you love to imagine things yourself. No wonder I used to write 'daydreaming' as one of my hobbies then.

- Books are more detailed (especially for those that become movies).

- Get to improve spelling abilities and vocabulary in general . This right here is the truth!

And so, what about books that become movies? The best because you get the best of both worlds but I'd never see the movie of a book before reading it. That kills the suspense that I love. Seeing the movie after reading the book makes me feel like some kind of boss lol. Probably because I know what scene comes next and I get to be a mean movie critic. For example, I just read The Notebook last month and just last week I was with some friends going through a laptop and I saw The Notebook movie. I was so excited and I proceeded to play it. When I saw the protagonist Noah Calhoun, I actually said out loud that "The Noah in the book is finer than the movie's Noah" and the remaining 3 people in the room were shocked, like how do you know what he looks like from a book? I don't think I gave a valid explanation cause this guy actually said "If only people could imagine the word of God like that". Whew
Also,after reading the book 'Me Before You', I really disturbed the person I saw the movie with with my frequent "In the book, that's not how it happened" without considering the fact that they were probably trying to reduce  the cost of production.

All in all, I think the comparison isn't all that needed because either way, you get knowledge, you lose boredom, you learn new words, probably get to imagine all you want to depending on your reasons for engaging in either activity. For me tho, it'd always be books over movies.

What about you? Are you more of a book person than a movie person? Why?
I think my childhood experiences had a big role to play in picking my preference. Is it also like that for you?
What book have you read and also seen the movie that you think should have just stayed as a book?

I always want to hear from you. Kindly leave me your thoughts.
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