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The Confident Woman : Joyce Meyer

I don't think a post has ever been long overdue the way this one is. In my JUNE recap, I mentioned that I had been reading this book for ages and would share lessons from it as soon as I'm through. Four months gone and guess what? I'm still not done reading it. I actually haven't picked it up since then. It's not only with this book ; many others. Both e-books and non e-books but that's fine. Let's talk about why I dropped this book in the first instance.
Plain truth is I didn't want to finish it. Funny, I know.The book is loaded with so many things for me and I felt I was rushing it plus I didn't just want to read it and get over with it. I wanted to digest and practicalise all there was in it. Funny thing is I borrowed it from a friend initially and when I realised the book was tearing apart and I didn't want to part with it , I just got her a new one. That's how cool the book is. Anyway, this is not a review of any kind. I'm just here to share a few salient points I penned down from the book.

1. Everyone can be a 10 at something but our problem is that we often work so hard on overcoming our weaknesses that we never develop our strengths. -  I'm naturally good at singing and instead of me focusing on improving my singing ability and being a 10 at it, I divert all my attention to writing which I'm no good at which in turn affects my singing ability. You get? I'm not good at singing so this example ain't me. Lol

2. Don't sit on the sidelines of life wishing you were doing the things you see other people doing. Take action - Okay, there's this 'thing' people keep telling me to try cause they feel I'd excel at it. Maybe I would, maybe not. I'm definitely going to try it out. No need to live thinking of what could have been.

3. You don't have to feel confident to be confident! Learn to go beyond your feelings- I keep telling myself this. You can do it. You can do it.

4. THE MORE CONFIDENCE YOU HAVE, THE MORE CONFIDENCE PEOPLE WILL BE ABLE TO PLACE IN YOU - Exactly how I wrote it down ; in capital letters. I can remember that the day I read this line, I had a huge epiphany. It just told me a lot and explained a whole lot to me.

5. Be sure to spend time with people who encourage you in your quest to be an individual. Find friends who give you space to be yourself, space to make mistakes and who respect your boundaries - Bottom line is stop being around people who make you feel uncomfortable and those who judge your every move.

6. Your confidence must be in God more than it is in anything or anyone in the world- Because He's the All-knowing God.

7. God's power is not available just to make unpleasant things in our life go away, it is frequently available to walk us through them courageously- You might not be able to escape standing in front of that very large crowd but you'd definitely be able to make it through the whole time without err... fainting or maybe blabbing.

8. In meeting resistance, you'd build your  strength but if you wait till everything is easy, you'll remain weak.

9. Worry does not make you escape your trouble. It only makes you unfit to deal with it when it comes- Somebody, engrave this in my head, pleaseee!!!

10. Trial and error is the road to success, and you can't drive that road as long as your car is parked. So get moving, and God will direct you- Success won't come to you, you have to venture out to meet it halfway. This right here spurs me on whenever I want to stay in my 'Obsession Against Involvement' zone

11. Our joy should not be found in being better than others, but in being the best we can be - Yeah, right. Simply put, stop the  comparison game and aim to be better.

Okay, so when I read this book to the point where I dropped it, I was able to deal with my constant worrying and all was fine even though that wasn't why I started reading this. These days, it seems to have gotten worse. Like, worrying cripples everything. Every little thing. I just think about something and before I know it, some sort of binary fission has occurred in my mind and I begin to make up crazy, really crazy scenarios of everything that could go wrong. I guess that's what drew me to my notes from this book today. Worrying is baad. I know, I know and I'm praying about it.

     Have you ever had to deal with worry/fear?
     What helpful tips can be used to deal with it?
 Which of these points speak to you most?
Do you agree that everyone can be a 10 at something?
There are many Bible verses that speak about worrying. Which is your favourite?
What lessons have you learnt on being confident and living boldly?

I'd love to hear from you. Please leave me your thoughts.xxxx
P.S : Blogger boos, I'd love to read your posts on worrying, living confidently, overcoming fear and every other thing in between so please leave me the links.



  1. Well said baby girl. All these points come in handy in life. You'd never go wrong if you apply these lessons on life

  2. I spend months on every single Joyce Meyers book I can lay my hands on -- that woman is truly epic!
    And I used to struggle with worry and fear alot but of late,I am finally getting to that point where I simply cast all of my cares on God.
    It's too much for just me to carry, and most people don't care anyways.
    Somehow, all would be well at the end.

    I've written two articles related to this: The second was a few weeks back, which I titled "What You're Doing Wrong With Your Fears" and the first was in September which was "Five Reasons To Worry Less And Five Ways How."
    I think the first should be much more helpful so I'd be linking to that.
    I hope it helps!
    Have a great week :-)

    1. Oh cool, I thought
      I was alone.
      I had to rush
      Battlefield of
      the mind
      because I
      borrowed it
      from a library.
      It's wayy too
      much to carry
      and I'm working
      on it.
      Thanks dear

  3. Ola, fear and worry are normal in the lives of everyone.. At one point or the other, we all would face them. Point 4 is so so true and very practicable.Confidence goes a long way in the lives of human.

    Though i hardly read Christian books as the only one i have read is Kenneth Haggin's the MIDAS TOUCH.. while about finishing the book, i started using a day to read four lines so it wouldnt finish. That one spirit about books when coming to an end.

  4. My takeaway from the book is the point on worry. Worry only renders you unfit to deal with issues. It doesn't make your challenges go away. I believe one of the greatest skills a person can possess is learning how to not worry even when the storms are raging. Sometimes, the things we worry about aren't that complicated as our worrying makes it seem.

    Also, I have been meditating on the verse that says "peace I give unto you, not as the world gives..." The world gives us peace based on our circumstances but Christ gives us peace regardless of our circumstances.

    Thanks for sharing from the book, Olaa. Sounds like a great read.

    1. Worry weakens!
      Sometimes I
      can literally
      feel it sucking
      out my strength.
      And yes, it
      I love your
      of that verse.
      Thanks Precious
      and yup,it sure

  5. I really love Joyce Meyer she is really awesome.... And read Ima 'S posts she is soooooo awesome.and her posts really helped me personally, I wrote something similar about worrying about my exams and making the right decision, you can check it out .....we really need friends who appreciate, loves and understand our I tagged you in my latest TMI post

    1. She's good!
      And being around
      the right friends
      does a whole lot!
      Thanks for the
      tag dear! I'd
      warm up to

  6. Wow, those are important points we need to be reminded of. One that stuck out is not sitting in the sidelines wishing one was doing what others are. In these days where it so difficult for one not to compare themselves to others, one must remain confident in their craft so you don't get sidetracked.

    Thanks for sharing hun.

    Funmi x

    1. That point also got
      to me. In every
      possible way. Thanks
      for sharing the
      additional info.

  7. I know the feeling of not wanting to finish reading a book, of late I don't even have time to start. I miss reading.
    I have a couple of Bible words that I use to calm down " Let go and Let God" in my own words " You didn't become a member of Christ family to still be a slave to fear and it's relatives" It's tough being in line but with effort (true or half mindlessly) , everything falls in place.

    1. Aww, thanks for
      these words! I
      love them all!
      The last one
      is just everything.

  8. Wow, I love "You don't have to feel confident to be confident! Learn to go beyond your feelings." Never thought about it like that.
    Thanks for sharing. :)

    XoXo Noma

  9. Wow! So many sailent points in one post. Joyce Meryer is bae. She talks about taking control of your mind a lot.

    Here is one her books I reviewed too - 'Never Give up' by Joyce Meryer 

    Ola, I'm glad you got over your worries. These feelings come once in a while, but we have the power to talk ourselves out of it.

    Thank you for writing. Have a refreshing weekend. :)

  10. I love Joyce Meyer. All those points really speak to me, especially 5 and 8.
    I used to worry a lot but then I realized there is no point stressing over anything I don't have control over. I just try be as much prepared as possible.
    Thank you for sharing Olaa. Have a great weekend! :)
    Sauniya | Find Your Bliss ♡

  11. I'm alwaya excited to pick ot up to read but I'm taking my time.It's been a long time since I got it but I'm enjoying reading it slowly.

  12. Am a huge fan of Joyce Meyer books.. Her books are so inspirational that they have a way of speaking directly about your situation.. I will try and get this book..

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  13. You just convinced me to read this! Can't wait. I love Joyce.

  14. So beautiful !
    Kiss, Lucie

  15. I don't know if you've read it, but if not... You should, If you can check out this amazing book also by Joyce Meyer... "Battlefield of the Mind"....Verses About worrying ....Psalms 55 Vs 22....PHILIPPIANS 4 Vs 6-7.....Good one dear.. Thanks for sharing.


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