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The Confident Woman : Joyce Meyer


I don't think a post has ever been long overdue the way this one is. In my JUNE recap, I mentioned that I had been reading this book for ages and would share lessons from it as soon as I'm through. Four months gone and guess what? I'm still not done reading it. I actually haven't picked it up since then. It's not only with this book ; many others. Both e-books and non e-books but that's fine. Let's talk about why I dropped this book in the first instance.
Plain truth is I didn't want to finish it. Funny, I know.The book is loaded with so many things for me and I felt I was rushing it plus I didn't just want to read it and get over with it. I wanted to digest and practicalise all there was in it. Funny thing is I borrowed it from a friend initially and when I realised the book was tearing apart and I didn't want to part with it , I just got her a new one. That's how cool the book is. Anyway, this is not a review of any kind. I'm just here to share a few salient points I penned down from the book.


1. Everyone can be a 10 at something but our problem is that we often work so hard on overcoming our weaknesses that we never develop our strengths. -  I'm naturally good at singing and instead of me focusing on improving my singing ability and being a 10 at it, I divert all my attention to writing which I'm no good at which in turn affects my singing ability. You get? I'm not good at singing so this example ain't me. Lol

2. Don't sit on the sidelines of life wishing you were doing the things you see other people doing. Take action - Okay, there's this 'thing' people keep telling me to try cause they feel I'd excel at it. Maybe I would, maybe not. I'm definitely going to try it out. No need to live thinking of what could have been.

3. You don't have to feel confident to be confident! Learn to go beyond your feelings- I keep telling myself this. You can do it. You can do it.

4. THE MORE CONFIDENCE YOU HAVE, THE MORE CONFIDENCE PEOPLE WILL BE ABLE TO PLACE IN YOU - Exactly how I wrote it down ; in capital letters. I can remember that the day I read this line, I had a huge epiphany. It just told me a lot and explained a whole lot to me.

5. Be sure to spend time with people who encourage you in your quest to be an individual. Find friends who give you space to be yourself, space to make mistakes and who respect your boundaries - Bottom line is stop being around people who make you feel uncomfortable and those who judge your every move.

6. Your confidence must be in God more than it is in anything or anyone in the world- Because He's the All-knowing God.

7. God's power is not available just to make unpleasant things in our life go away, it is frequently available to walk us through them courageously- You might not be able to escape standing in front of that very large crowd but you'd definitely be able to make it through the whole time without err... fainting or maybe blabbing.

8. In meeting resistance, you'd build your  strength but if you wait till everything is easy, you'll remain weak.

9. Worry does not make you escape your trouble. It only makes you unfit to deal with it when it comes- Somebody, engrave this in my head, pleaseee!!!

10. Trial and error is the road to success, and you can't drive that road as long as your car is parked. So get moving, and God will direct you- Success won't come to you, you have to venture out to meet it halfway. This right here spurs me on whenever I want to stay in my 'Obsession Against Involvement' zone

11. Our joy should not be found in being better than others, but in being the best we can be - Yeah, right. Simply put, stop the  comparison game and aim to be better.

Okay, so when I read this book to the point where I dropped it, I was able to deal with my constant worrying and all was fine even though that wasn't why I started reading this. These days, it seems to have gotten worse. Like, worrying cripples everything. Every little thing. I just think about something and before I know it, some sort of binary fission has occurred in my mind and I begin to make up crazy, really crazy scenarios of everything that could go wrong. I guess that's what drew me to my notes from this book today. Worrying is baad. I know, I know and I'm praying about it.

     Have you ever had to deal with worry/fear?
     What helpful tips can be used to deal with it?
 Which of these points speak to you most?
Do you agree that everyone can be a 10 at something?
There are many Bible verses that speak about worrying. Which is your favourite?
What lessons have you learnt on being confident and living boldly?

I'd love to hear from you. Please leave me your thoughts.xxxx
P.S : Blogger boos, I'd love to read your posts on worrying, living confidently, overcoming fear and every other thing in between so please leave me the links.


   

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